Posts in burnout
On failure

Progress isn't always linear. It doesn't always come in the form of big concrete achievements. There's a big difference between feeling like I did some things that were failures versus feeling that I myself am a failure.

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On learning to enjoy things

I've discovered that giving myself room to be bad at some things frees up a lot of mental energy that I can use for the things I really do want to be good at. I spent so much time in my past worrying that if I let myself be bad at anything then I'd end up being bad at everything, but by not giving myself any space to just enjoy things I ended up burning out instead.

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On productivity when you just can't even

I’ve used to-do lists and planners to try to bring some order to things, to help me remember what needs to be done, and to keep track of goals. I’ve been using habit tracking to help me maintain healthy routines. I’ve had to reassess what is really important to me, and figure out how that changes over time, and sometimes I’ve quit things, giving present-me some room to breathe and to better support future-me.

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On cupcakes and failures

I hope that talking about my own failures will help make it easier for other people to talk about theirs, to realize that we don't have to be perfect all the time in this industry, or in this world. Trying and failing is still failing, but it's also still trying, and being able to keep trying, even if all you're succeeding at right now is getting out of bed most days, is how we're able to keep fighting to make things better.

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On becoming me-shaped again

I think it would benefit all of us to think about why we define ourselves the way we do. During the years I felt like I didn't belong in this industry, where I didn't know anyone in tech in my demographic, a company identity felt safer than an individual one. I didn't feel like belonged in tech, but surely these tech companies did, so I hid behind their identities as a way of coping with my impostor syndrome.

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On burnout

I'm going to keep talking about burnout, because we as an industry talk too little about the effects this work has on us. Now more than ever, one of the best things we can do is reach out to and support each other, to listen to each other and help each other.

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On quitting things

Sometimes we want to quit things, but quitting things can be hard. Often times, the reasons we shy away from quitting something come down to fear, and it can be very helpful to figure out where that fear is coming from. As difficult as it can be, quitting things is a great way of helping to keep your life balanced, fulfilling, and healthy.

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On sarcasm and trust

When you’re severely burnt out, cynicism and pessimism become coping mechanisms, because if you expect mistrust and misalignment from the beginning, you won’t be negatively surprised by them, as if the expectation of hurt will keep it from stinging quite so badly. Snark becomes a shield you hide behind because it’s easier to do that than to deal with being disappointed by another colleague or company.

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